Going to a new school this September and not sure how to handle being the new kid? Or just in for a change in your classroom pals? This week, I will post an article on how to make the right friends fast. Enjoy!
Step 1: When you arrive in your new classroom, get to know everyone in your class: learn their names and try to select a few you like best. Maybe even try for other new kids. Don't forget: some friendships aren't immediate, so yours could take a while to develop. Also keep in mind that some people aren't what they seem and that the kids without friends are always possibilities are pals.
Step 2: At the next break, or even after school, try to pull one of those few people you chose aside. Learn a little more about them: what they like, and what kind of personality they have. By the end of the week, try to get down to a few less people and get emails and addresses. Of course, if you're the type to have a lot of friends, you can be friends with all of them, and maybe even some of their closer buddies. If you're more the one-friend type, try to find a best friend, maybe even one for life!
Step 3: Try to pick one or two of the people as your best friend(s). It's possible that your two finalists are already good buddies, so you could form a "triangle friendship."
When you're choosing, keep in mind a few helpful hints:
- Try to go with someone who has a personality similar to yours. People like this usually get along better.
- Make sure you know enough about the person to be able to judge him/her. Sometimes, people who seem so aren't actually who you want to be with.
- If you two get along immediately, keep it that way.
- Don't push it, and don't steal the person away from his/her friends from prior years (if your option is another new kid, this shouldn't be a problem).
- Pick the person who you like because of his/her life, personality, bad spots, etc. These are signs of a true possible friendship. Also, try to make sure the person likes you for what you are: that's half the decision.
The personalities make a big difference in a person, so take a look at the following personality helper for help deciding.
SPORTY: This personality type usually enjoys playing sports and is sometimes synonymous with boyish. Sporty people can be obsessed with their hobbies, and it's best if you don't interfere with that.
GIRLY: The girly type usually have a lot of friends and like things like dolls when they're little, and like things like boys as they get older. Although many people think girly-girls are girly for life, sometimes they pretend to be boyish. Girly people often catch on to trends easily.
QUIRKY: Quirky people are not ordinary, and like to start their own trends. Often quirky people don't fit in because they don't like the same things as other people. If you know me, I would probably be classified as quirky. Quirky people are often imitated by some of the other personality types, but are impossible to duplicate.
GOODY-TWO-SHOES: A Goody-Two-Shoes is someone who plays it safe and goes by the rules. They can be sometimes dull to be with because they never take risks and do as they're told.
SERVANT: Servants are often bossed around and taken advandage of by girly and sporty (and occaisionally even quirky) people. Their kind nature allows them to do things for people, but if you don't boss them around, the servant type is a kind addition to your friend data-base.
If you aren't changing schools, but would like to make a new friend or two or even make up with someone next year, consider being nice to the new kid. It's not easy to change schools, so if you're looking for a new lifelong buddy, try the new addition to your grade.
I hope This or That helped you pick out your new best friend and made life easier for you at your new school, or even better at your old one.
In this edition of This or That, I will write about what season is best and why it is. Whether you just want to find out what's good about the season to come, or would like to get your thoughts straightened out your season preferences, read this, because that's what it's here for! Dig right in and enjoy... :-)
Summer: the typical preferred season. Quite personally, summer is my least favorite season. It's not that I don't like it, but I find it too hot and too sunny and too humid, at least in the city. Often my family goes to the country for the summer months, and I admit that is much more pleasant. But, summer is camp season and is school-less. Often it enables endless possibilities that are not possible in the other (better) three seasons.
My favorite season is fall. It includes my birthday, Thanksgiving, beautiful falling leaves of different colors, Halloween (candy!), and, unfortunately (but not technically!) back-to-school danger area. If you look at dates and not unofficial start and endings, most schools reopen in summer, at the very end. However, if you consider Labor Day the end of fun-season (summer) school does become revived in autumn. Other than that, and the fact that stuff gets blown into your eyes during the fall (or if you don't like turkey, there's Thanksgiving) autumn is pleasant in weather, holidays, and happenings.
Winter. The season of cold, the hated season. The season of heaters in New York City apartments. But, also, the season of sledding and skiing and snowboarding. The season of heavy overcoats and turtleneck shirts. If you like the cold, make winter your favorite season. I consider the cold better than the hot of summer because if it's cold out you can put on five layers of clothes and get away with it, but if it's hot out there's nothing you can do about it. Also, if you like winter sports, winter can be a season to look forward too, but not necessarily your favorite.
And, last but not least, spring, the allergy season! Spring is full of flowers and is a good omen: the omen of summer! If you're allergic to pollen, spring can be a season of suffering, but it pays off in the form of fabulous multi-colored flowers. Mild weather and lots of rain make this season complete, but with it you can tell what kind of summer you need to prepare for. Spring is a nice season, but not for all!
No matter which season you choose to be your favorite, or which you prefer over another, I hope This or That has had another successful post on something that matters to you. I don't know about you, but I'm looking forward to fall!
Going to a party and not sure whether to wear a dress, a skirt, or a pair of pants? This or That will help get you started on what to where when and why.
A dress is, of course, the fanciest option of the three and if you're going to a very important event is probably the right decision. For a less fancy party, casual dresses do exist and if you're the type can make you look very elegant but not too fancy. For something super casual, a dress might not be very fitting.
Skirts are good for almost anything: they come in all shapes and sizes and colors. They can be fancy or casual, and certain skorts (skirts with shorts underneath) can be good for sporting parties. For a more fancy look, long skirts in pretty, elegant designs are perfect, and the perfect matching shirt makes your look complete. For more casual, but not jean-type parties, a knee-long skirt can be nice and makes you look well-dressed. For sporting parties, pants might be a better idea, but if you really want the girly look you can manage with a skort, preferably slightly shorter than knee-length, as long as the shorts underneath are sort of tight and not baggy so that during flips your underwear are invisible. If you can't find a skort, you can make your own by putting a skirt on over a pair of shorts, just make sure the colors make sense together.
Pants can make you overheated, but in certain cases are the right decision to make your outfit perfect. For a relatively casual gathering, a pair of jeans with a sensible shirt can be perfect and very hip. Even for more elegant parties, dress pants do exist, and are sometimes the perfect fit for your personality. For the fancier parties, consider a dress or a skirt the smarter decision.
If you like looking hip but need to wear a dress or skirt, leggings would be perfect for you! This type of tight legwear looks great underneath some of the more casual dresses (especially sundresses) and most skirts, but don't work so well under skorts. For summer nights, leggings will keep you warm, and during the day they might not be the airiest choice, but aren't heavy enough to really make a difference. In certain cases, leggings or jeggings (leggings that feel and are the same color as jeans and resemble super-skinny jeans) can make your outfit the ultimate success and the hippest at the party.
I hope This or That helped with your decision-making this time around! Good luck choosing and have fun at your party!
Getting a haircut is pretty serious business. If you get layers, or a very short cut, it can take years to grow back to the way it is now. It's really important that you absolutely adore your haircut, especially if you are making a major change from its current cut.
The first two options are pretty simple: short or long.
Long hair is a lot of responsibility. You have to brush it every day, sometimes more than once. It can be handy for putting it into hairdos, and it's a good thing to show off.
Short hair is super easy to take care of. Brushing is only optional, but is still a good idea. Washing and things like that are still neccessary, though. Short hair is good for people who like to run often and sweat a lot.
Once you have decided the length, it's time to decide about the angle. The angle includes layers and cuts on an angle.
For those of you who don't know what layered hair is, it is when parts of your hair are different lengths than others. This type of cut can take a long time to grow out and can be hard to put into some hairdos. Layers are all the rage at the moment, though: they are considered very hip and are very stylish.
If the bottom of your hair is not all the same length, but instead shorter in the front and longer in the back, or vice-versa, you have an angle cut. Angle cuts are super easy to grow out and, if you like the style, are very attractive. For these, it's all about whether you like them to begin with. Who knows? Maybe this cut will be a keeper for you!
No matter what you decide on for a haircut this time around, I hope This or That helped with your decision-making. Good luck with your cut!
